How Are You?
“I’m FINE”.
Another definition of ‘fine’ as heard recently in the new version of the Italian Job – Freaked-out Insecure Neurotic and Emotional or perhaps more accurately Feelings Inside Not Expressed.
How often do you hear that, when actually the person saying it isn’t FINE at all? Either they’re doing that …”can’t you see I’m not really fine, but I’m not going to say, I just expect you to guess what’s wrong” or they just don’t want to discuss it - Feelings Inside Not Expressed.
Sometimes it can be difficult to actually say how we’re feeling – especially to those we care about. We don’t want them to worry or feel that we’re moaning but what’s your response when someone asks "How are you?" Do you respond with the standard – "fine thank" you or do you then regale them with your list of problems, ailments and issues or something in-between.
When someone says “I’m fine” to you and you know they’re not really, what do you do? How do you coax the real answer from them or do you just ignore it and not want to get involved?
After all, if people were really interested in ‘how you are’ – surely they’d want an honest answer? Equally, if you were really interested in them, you'd want to know. Obviously the type of relationship you have with the person asking or answering the question is going to have a bearing on how much you reveal but why not improve your communication and ask for or give support if it's needed.
So, this week - when you give or receive the standard response - improve your listening skills and communicate in a more open and honest way.
Another definition of ‘fine’ as heard recently in the new version of the Italian Job – Freaked-out Insecure Neurotic and Emotional or perhaps more accurately Feelings Inside Not Expressed.
How often do you hear that, when actually the person saying it isn’t FINE at all? Either they’re doing that …”can’t you see I’m not really fine, but I’m not going to say, I just expect you to guess what’s wrong” or they just don’t want to discuss it - Feelings Inside Not Expressed.
Sometimes it can be difficult to actually say how we’re feeling – especially to those we care about. We don’t want them to worry or feel that we’re moaning but what’s your response when someone asks "How are you?" Do you respond with the standard – "fine thank" you or do you then regale them with your list of problems, ailments and issues or something in-between.
When someone says “I’m fine” to you and you know they’re not really, what do you do? How do you coax the real answer from them or do you just ignore it and not want to get involved?
After all, if people were really interested in ‘how you are’ – surely they’d want an honest answer? Equally, if you were really interested in them, you'd want to know. Obviously the type of relationship you have with the person asking or answering the question is going to have a bearing on how much you reveal but why not improve your communication and ask for or give support if it's needed.
So, this week - when you give or receive the standard response - improve your listening skills and communicate in a more open and honest way.
Labels: make a difference, relationships
0 Comments:
Post a Comment
Subscribe to Post Comments [Atom]
<< Home